Lost & Tired? How Giving Yourself Permission to These 5 Things Will Help

Been having a hard time letting loose lately. Let it be my hair, language, body, breath… I seem to fulfil the archetype of a Chinese Zodiac Ox. Not only do I plough through the day with work and chores, I also make sure I hit the gym, meditate, do yoga and slot in eat/sleep somewhere in there. Well… something gotta give. I find myself low in energy, irritable and at times breakdown into tears.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Here’s one of my favourite quotes on humanity by the Dalai Lama:


It’s becoming a social trend to be busy. The days are flying by and certainly there are not enough hours in a day. Is that how life goes? I sure hope not. So while we’re all finding our ways to live a meaningful life and trying damn hard to never be the person described by His Holiness, give yourself permission to the following.

Give Yourself Permission to…

#1) Not Care. We care so much about big and little things. Sometimes we just have to let it all go. It’s ok to skip the gym, eat out of an almond butter jar and to not shower. It’s ok to not return your boy/girlfriend’s call and stay at home on a Saturday night. Give yourself time to recuperate and the world will still be waiting on you when you’re done.

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#2) Be alone. Aloneness is not the same as loneliness. When you’re alone, you can do some much needed introspection. It could be that you’re feeling sad because you have a need for connection. Or you feel angry because you have a need for respect/honesty. Write it down and see how you can improve it either by making a request to the person affecting you or adjust your lifestyle/choices.

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#3) Receive help. Pretty much you can learn about anything and everything off the internet. But once in a while, let a human help you out. Receiving help is a sign of vulnerability, which doesn’t mean you’re weak or incapable. On the contrary, it shows signs of trust and reciprocity. Know that others are there for you and you don’t have to take on the world on your shoulder.


#4) Be different. It takes an idea, some action and a lot of courage. People like Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg are examples of people who took an idea and ran with it; they’re examples and not exceptions. Remember, those who criticise you for trying are projecting their fears and limited views onto you. So don’t let them.

#5) Act like a little kid. Somewhere around 12 years old, our hormones deceive us into growing up. The child’s mind is full of imagination and their eyes are filled with unfathomable wonders. Act like a child and be curious of everything around you. Gaze into the night sky and count the stars while you dream of becoming a ballerina or transformer. Camp out in your backyard and make an impressive fort. Your imagination will take you everywhere.